Come home to yourself.
You’re not undisciplined. You’ve been running on adrenaline and calling it focus.
Nervous system coaching for high-performing adults with ADHD — so focus and follow-through stop depending on pressure.
Don’t take my word for it
Feel your shoulders drop in 60 seconds.
Two inhales, one long exhale, five times. No signup, no sound, nothing to download — press start and follow the circle.
Check your shoulders. Lower than a minute ago?
Every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET on Zoom · free, no card · next room every Wednesday
That bracing is why the crash always comes. You can’t build steady focus on a nervous system that’s already running hot — so we start there, at the level of the body, and the steadiness compounds into focus and follow-through you can count on.
“I came in skeptical and burnt out. Working with Pen, I finally understood why I kept crashing — and had simple things that actually helped. It was the clearest my head has felt in a long time.” Claire · Nervous System Coaching Client
What is PKJ Coaching?
PKJ Coaching is a nervous system–centered coaching practice in New York for high-performing adults with ADHD, founded by Pen King Jr. We work at the level of the nervous system — not task management, not habit stacking — so focus and follow-through stop depending on pressure. It is not therapy and does not replace medical care.
Sit in on a live session — free.
Before you decide anything, come and feel what this work is like. Register for the free live call — every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET — and just be in the room.
Live nervous-system room every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET · free · one registration covers every week. Same hour, same room, same three things — a regulation tip, a live group training, and guided vocal toning.
One registration carries across every week, so once you have signed up there is nothing to redo — your Zoom link stays the same.
Wednesdays, 11:00 AM ETEvery Wednesday · 11:00 AM ET on Zoom · Free, no card required · Come muted, camera off, just listen.
A free taste of what Resonance calls are like — the ongoing weekly calls are part of the membership.
Free live sessions for a limited time — then $37/month. Join now and lock in as a founding member.
Wednesday feels far away? Get Pen's weekly nervous system note — it comes with a free practice you can try tonight — or open Bonding Health for a 15-second reset right now.
The Resonance Membership
A monthly membership for learning to regulate your nervous system — one live practice a week, with Pen and a small group doing the work alongside you.
A live call every week, a practice guide you keep every other week, and no pressure to perform.
It's $37/month with your first month free — and you can cancel anytime, in one email to Pen.
How Resonance works
Start free — your first month is on us.
Join one free live call every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET (or watch the replay).
Cancel anytime — just email Pen, no form.
What you get
One free call on Zoom, every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET. Join live, or watch the replay whenever it fits. Each call holds all three of these:
- —A nervous system regulation tip — one small, doable shift for the week ahead. Not another system to keep up with.
- —A live group training — Pen teaching the why and the how, live, and answering what's actually coming up for the room.
- —A guided vocal toning practice — your own voice as the instrument. Humming and toning work the vagus nerve directly through your vocal cords.
- —A downloadable practice guide (PDF) — every two weeks, one short guide you can keep: the practice written out plainly, so you have something to return to between calls. Print it, save it, come back to it in six months. It's yours.
On the live call you're muted and simply listening — no pressure to perform, ever. Camera off is fine. Every call is recorded, so missing one costs you nothing.
A monthly membership · Free live call — every Wednesday · Practice guide every other week
$37/month · First month free · Cancel anytime
Who it's for: high-performing adults with ADHD who are tired of running on pressure. If you want a weekly practice instead of another productivity system, you're in the right room.
What this looks
like day to day.
You've tried the systems, the supplements, the accountability partners — maybe a prescription or two. And still, some quiet part of you feels one hard week away from unraveling.
That's not a discipline problem. No one ever showed you how your nervous system works — or how gently it can learn to settle.
- Focus tends to arrive only when something is urgent or overdue
- There's a low hum of tension, even when nothing is really wrong
- Emotions can land faster and bigger than you'd like
- Your days swing between deep hyperfocus and complete shutdown
- Rest can leave you more anxious instead of less
- You look steady on the outside while feeling hollow underneath
- You've been on medication for years and still don't quite feel like you
ADHD isn't a
discipline problem.
It's a nervous system one.
Every productivity system and habit stack was designed for a brain with steady, predictable dopamine. Yours doesn't work that way, and willpower was never going to change that. It isn't a flaw in you.
The focus struggles, the emotional swings, the inconsistency — they grow from the same root: a system that learned long ago to run on threat and urgency instead of safety.
You can't build steady performance on a nervous system that never feels safe. The foundation comes first — and it can be rebuilt.
What's the hardest
part day-to-day?
There's no wrong answer — pick the one that fits most often.
How long has this
pattern been running
the show?
Roughly is fine.
What have you
already tried?
Pick the one that's closest.
What has this been
costing you lately?
Be honest — this just shapes your result.
How ready are you
to commit to a
structured process?
1:1 work is a 90-day commitment, not a quick fix.
Resonance is your next step.
A weekly regulation tip, a live group training, and vocal toning — your first month is free.
Keep this feeling weekly — first month free$37/month · First month free · Cancel anytime
Free live sessions for a limited time — then $37/month. Join now and lock in as a founding member.
How the work goes,
in three steps.
Notice Where You're Holding
Most high-performing adults with ADHD carry a chronic tension they've stopped noticing. Together we bring it into view — in the body, the emotions, the daily patterns — before changing anything.
Build Safety Inside Your System
With somatic practices, breathwork, and small daily shifts, we create the conditions where your nervous system can soften. Not forced calm — a real, felt sense of safety.
Replace Force With Steadiness
Once your system has a steadier baseline, we rebuild focus, follow-through, and emotional balance on a foundation that no longer needs pressure to hold it up.
I spent 17 years on stimulants before I understood what was actually wrong.
I grew up in New York City, diagnosed with ADHD early, handed a prescription, and told to get on with it. For years I did — and by most metrics, it worked. I became an elite ski racer. I built companies. I performed.
What nobody saw was the internal cost. The chronic tension. The emotional crashes. The inability to rest. The growing suspicion that I couldn't function without medication — and the quiet dread of what that meant.
After three burnouts and 17 years, I finally asked the question nobody had asked me: what is the medication actually doing to my nervous system over time? The answer changed everything.
I worked with my physician to taper off stimulants and spent two years rebuilding my regulation capacity from the ground up — using neuroscience, somatic practice, nutritional psychiatry, and behavioral psychology. What I built held in a way nothing before it had.
PKJ Coaching exists to give other high-performing adults with ADHD what I didn't have: a guide, a framework, and a container to do this work — without figuring it out alone over two decades.
$37/month · First month free · Cancel anytime
What clients say
about this work.
From 1:1 coaching and nervous system coaching clients, in their own words. Individual results vary.
Pen has some deep knowledge around wellness and health. I deeply trust him when it comes to the mind and body.
Pen really helped me build my self-confidence and improve my body composition. I have never felt better in my life.
I stopped white-knuckling my way through every day. This work gave me a way to actually settle down instead of just pushing harder. First time in years my evenings feel like mine again.
I came in skeptical and burnt out. Working with Pen, I finally understood why I kept crashing — and had simple things that actually helped. It was the clearest my head has felt in a long time.
Working with Pen has been an amazing experience! He's very responsive and will listen to what you have to say, plus he always gives great advice. You will get a lot done in a short amount of time when working with Pen and I highly encourage you to! Whatever your goals are, he has a solution.
Pen is an incredible holistic coach who brings so much insight, intuition, and genuine care to his work. He has a way of helping you see things from a new perspective while giving you practical guidance that actually makes a healthy difference. I always leave our conversations feeling clearer, more grounded, and inspired after I work with him.
I can’t recommend this holistic ADHD coach highly enough! They bring such a thoughtful, intuitive, and genuinely caring approach to their work. They have a unique way of helping you understand yourself and your ADHD from a completely different perspective while also providing practical tools and guidance that make a real difference in everyday life. Every session leaves me feeling more clear, grounded, understood, and empowered. Their insight and compassion are truly exceptional, and I’m so grateful for the positive impact their coaching has had on me!
Working with Pen has been such a valuable experience. He has a way of holding space that makes me feel completely comfortable being honest. This often leads me to notice things I wasn't paying attention to, and the insights that come out of those moments have helped me move closer to my goals. I always leave our sessions with a clear sense of direction, and usually a new understanding of myself that I didn't have when I walked in. I've made huge strides towards my health goals, and I know I owe a lot of that to our work together.
Take the whole first month on the house. Sit in the live calls, tone with us, try the weekly tips. If your nervous system doesn't feel different, cancel before the month is up and you're never charged. Cancel anytime after, too — email Pen directly. No form. No questions.
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Free, Wednesdays 11:00 AM ET, cameras optional.
Want to do this work 1:1?
For a small number of clients each season, Pen works privately — a 90-day, high-touch container built around your nervous system, your history, and your life.
It's selective by design. The way in is a short application and a free clarity call — no pitch, no pressure, and you'll leave with something useful whether or not you enroll.
- The morning dread eases — you start your day without bracing for it
- Focus stops depending on panic, urgency, or a looming deadline
- Your evenings feel like yours again, instead of recovery time
- You stop white-knuckling and start trusting your own steadiness
- Performance that holds up on a regular week, not just a crisis one
Coaching, not treatment — designed to help you build these, not a guarantee. Individual results vary.
Private 1:1 Coaching
By application after your call. Pen takes only a few 1:1 clients each season.
- You're a high-performing adult with ADHD who's exhausted
- You rely on urgency or pressure to perform
- You've tried systems and want something deeper
“He’s very responsive and will listen to what you have to say, plus he always gives great advice. You will get a lot done in a short amount of time.” Kiril · Coaching Client
Book your free clarity call →Free clarity call. No commitment required. 20 minutes, no pitch.
The same work, in an app:
Bonding Health.
Bonding Health delivers 15-second Qiks™ — fast, science-backed somatic resets you can use the moment overwhelm hits. Built by Pen for ADHD brains, it's the daily companion PKJ clients use between sessions.
Explore Bonding Health →Calm overwhelm in under 2 minutes.
Name what's happening, follow a guided Qik™, and track your wins. Over time your brain learns a new default: regulate instead of react. 14-day free trial.
Questions people ask
before they start.
Essays on ADHD, focus,
and the nervous system.
When Your ADHD Meds Stop Working
ADHD medication that stops feeling like it used to is often a signal about the state underneath it, not just the prescription. What to look at first.
Read the essay →ADHD and Caffeine: Why It Helps, Then Backfires
Coffee quiets the search for stimulation, then borrows against a baseline that was already thin. Here is the loop, and where to break it.
Read the essay →Exercise for ADHD: How Movement Regulates the Nervous System
Movement works because it gives activation somewhere to go — which is why the punishing version backfires and the small version holds.
Read the essay →ADHD, Gut Health, and the Nervous System Connection
Skip the supplement marketing. The reliable link runs through the state your body spends the day in — and how ADHD days disrupt eating.
Read the essay →ADHD Coaching for Professionals and Executives
Seniority changes what ADHD costs you. Why task systems stop helping at this level, and what the work should actually target.
Read the essay →ADHD at Work: Why Your Job Drains You
ADHD at work isn't a focus problem — it's the cost of the invisible second job you run all day. Here's what actually lowers the drain.
Read the essay →Is ADHD Coaching Worth It? An Honest Answer
Coaching pays off for some people with ADHD and wastes money for others. Here's who it works for, who it doesn't, and how to test it cheaply.
Read the essay →ADHD Coaching for Women
Late diagnosis, years of masking, and hormonal shifts change what the work needs to target — and it isn't focus. Here's what actually helps.
Read the essay →Looking for an ADHD Coach in New York?
Why proximity is rarely the deciding factor, what the city does to a dysregulated nervous system, and the questions actually worth asking.
Read the essay →Sleep Problems in Adults With ADHD
Sleep problems in adults with ADHD are rarely just bad sleep hygiene. Here's why the ADHD nervous system won't switch off at night — and what actually helps.
Read the essay →ADHD Executive Function Without Medication
You don't need more medication to improve ADHD executive function. Here's how nervous system regulation rebuilds focus, planning, and follow-through.
Read the essay →ADHD Coaching for Entrepreneurs That Works
Most ADHD coaching fails entrepreneurs because it stacks systems on top of a dysregulated nervous system. Here's what ADHD coaching for founders should actually do.
Read the essay →Why ADHD Adults Feel Constantly Tense
If you feel tense all the time with ADHD, it's not just stress. Here's why the ADHD nervous system stays contracted — and how to bring it down.
Read the essay →What an ADHD Emotional Regulation Coach Does
An ADHD emotional regulation coach helps you widen the gap between trigger and reaction. Here's what that work looks like, and who it's for.
Read the essay →High-Performing Adults With ADHD
High-performing adults with ADHD often look fine and feel exhausted. Here's the hidden cost of coping — and why the fix isn't more discipline.
Read the essay →More essays on nervous system regulation, ADHD, and sustainable performance.
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Four steps, and the first two are free.
Most people arrive mid-crash and work up from there. You can stop at any step, and where you start is genuinely up to you — or let one question decide.
A 60-second reset
Twelve guided resets that run in your browser. No signup, no card, nothing to install. Start where you actually are.
Do one now → 2FreeThe Wednesday live session
Sit in on a real group call, 11:00 AM ET every Wednesday. A regulation tip, a live training with Pen, and a guided vocal toning practice. No card.
Register → 3First month freeThe Resonance membership
Keep going with a room that meets weekly, plus a practice guide every other week. $37/month after the first, cancel anytime.
See what's inside → 4By application1:1 — The Convergence Method
Deep, personal work with Pen on your own nervous system. It starts with a free 20-minute clarity call, and fit is decided there.
Book the free call →Nobody skips ahead and nobody has to. Plenty of people stay at step one for months, and that is a real outcome, not a failed conversion.
Two ways to work with Pen.
Practice with a group every week, or work with Pen one-on-one. Most people start with the membership.
The Resonance Membership
A monthly membership for nervous system regulation. One free live group call — every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET — with a regulation tip, a live group training, and a guided vocal toning practice. Join live or watch the replay. Every other week, a practice guide (PDF) you keep.
$37/month · First month free · Cancel anytime
Keep this feeling weekly — first month freeFree live sessions for a limited time — then $37/month. Join now and lock in as a founding member.
1:1 Coaching — The Convergence Method
Pen beside you, one-on-one, for deep and personal work on your nervous system, your focus, and your money. Application only, and it starts with a free clarity call — no pitch, no pressure, and you'll leave with a clear next step either way.
Limited spots · Fit comes first
Book a free clarity call →Two ways to begin.
Join Resonance and practice with us — the free live call runs every Wednesday, 11:00 AM ET — and your first month is free, and you can cancel anytime. Or start with a free 1:1 clarity call: no pitch, no pressure, and you'll leave with a clear next step either way.
“I stopped white-knuckling my way through every day. This work gave me a way to actually settle down instead of just pushing harder.”
Willy · Nervous System Coaching Client“I came in skeptical and burnt out. Working with Pen, I finally understood why I kept crashing — and had simple things that actually helped.”
Claire · Nervous System Coaching Client“I always leave our sessions with a clear sense of direction, and usually a new understanding of myself that I didn’t have when I walked in.”
S.R. · Coaching Client