--- title: "Which Reset Suits You? Simple Notes | PKJ Coaching" description: "Optional before-and-after taps are a quick note of how a reset felt. They can help you reflect on which practices you prefer; they cannot prove which one works." url: "https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/which-nervous-system-reset-works-for-you" author: "Pen King Jr." publisher: "PKJ Coaching" published: "2026-09-15" updated: "2026-10-07" --- The PKJ Journal · [Inside PKJ Coaching](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/topics#inside-pkj) # Which Reset Suits You? Keeping Simple Notes on How Each One Felt By [Pen King Jr.](https://pkjcoaching.com/about) · Published September 15, 2026 · Updated October 7, 2026 **Quick answer:** If you like, tap how activated you feel, 1–5, just before a reset and again just after, and keep the pair. Over time those notes can help you reflect on which practices you prefer and want to keep. They are subjective notes about a moment, not a measurement of your nervous system, and **they cannot prove which practice works**. They are also separate from the weekly Regulation Index, which looks back on the whole past seven days. try one now [It’s due and I cannot make myself begin. Can’t start90s The Start Ramp90s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=start) [Chest tight. Something is rising. Chest tight60s The Physiological Sigh60s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=sigh) [Jaw clenched, headache behind my eyes. Jaw clenched30s The Face Reset30s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=face) [I keep replaying it and I cannot stop. Replaying it75s 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding75s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=ground) [Crashed and foggy. Reaching for more coffee. 3pm crash60s The 3pm Lift60s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=lift) [Furious. Teeth gritted. I just snapped at someone. Furious75s Shake and Settle75s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=shake) [Awake at 3am with a racing mind. Awake at 3am1m54 The 4-7-8 Sleep Breath1m54](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=sleep) [Too much noise, light and demand. I want to hide. Overloaded60s Slow Orienting60s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=orient) [I have to be steady in ten minutes. Need steady1m36 Box Breathing1m36](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=box) [Braced all day and I cannot come down. Cannot come down2m56 Heart-Rhythm Coherence2m56](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=coherence) [Raw, criticised, wrung out. Wrung out60s Hands and Heart60s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=hands) [Bottled up. I need to make a sound. Bottled up72s Vocal Toning72s](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=toning) [I do not know what this is — just start something](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now?r=sigh) There is no shortage of nervous system advice. There are twelve resets on this site alone, and the internet has thousands. A practical question is not what to try. It is which ones you want to keep reaching for. Most people answer that by feel, over months, and memory is not very good at it. A short note made at the time can help you look back more clearly. That is all this method is: a way of remembering how something felt, not a way of testing whether it works. ## Why “what works best” is the wrong question Ask which regulation practice is best and you will get confident answers. Many of them are general claims, and none of them can tell you what you will like, find easy to remember, or want to come back to. **People differ in what they prefer.** Some people enjoy breath-based practices; others would rather move, look around the room slowly, or hum. No article can tell you which you will prefer, and this one does not try. So the most useful guide is your own experience, written down so that you can actually look back at it. ## Why memory makes this hard The obvious objection is that you will simply notice what you like. In practice, three things get in the way. **You remember the dramatic sessions.** One memorable session can colour how you think about a practice, even if most times it felt ordinary. **You cannot separate the practice from the moment.** If you felt calmer afterwards, some of that may have been the practice and some may have been the meeting ending, the time of day or something else entirely. A note cannot separate those either — but it does remind you what the moment was like. **Effort gets mistaken for effect.** A practice that took five minutes and felt like a project can be remembered as more important than one that took forty seconds. ## The two-tap note The note itself is small, and it is entirely optional. **Before the practice, tap how activated you feel, from 1 to 5.** 1 is settled. 5 is wired. Go with your first instinct. **Do the practice.** Sixty seconds, usually. **Tap again.** Same scale, straight away. The [free reset library](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now) offers both taps around each practice, with no signup. They are optional and never gate the practice. These taps are a quick, subjective note of how you felt in that moment. They are not a measurement of your nervous system, they are not a clinical test, and the difference between them is not proof that a practice did anything. There is no particular size of difference, and no particular number of tries, that turns a note into evidence. Things that have nothing to do with the practice can change how you feel a minute later. ## This is not the weekly Regulation Index The [Regulation Index](https://pkjcoaching.com/measure) is a different thing: a weekly self-reflection with five questions about the whole past seven days. Because it covers a whole week, it cannot show the effect of one practice and should not be used as a before-and-after check. The two taps here are about one moment; the Regulation Index is about a week. Neither is a validated measurement, and [how the Regulation Index works, and its limits](https://pkjcoaching.com/instrument) are set out in full. ## Using your notes After a few weeks you may have notes on several practices. They can help you reflect on your preferences — not prove which practice works. **Pick a default if you want one.** Choosing a practice every time costs effort. If one practice is the one you tend to reach for and like, letting it be your default can make starting easier. **Let go of one you do not like.** If a practice never feels right to you, you do not have to keep doing it. Your notes are permission to choose, not a verdict on the practice. **Notice surprises.** Sometimes the practice you reach for most is not the one you expected. Your notes can make that easier to see. With a free account, [the dashboard](https://pkjcoaching.com/my-nervous-system) lists the practices you have tapped more than once, with the average difference in your own taps and how many times you did each. It is a summary of your notes, not a ranking of what works. The “do this next” card names one practice and says where the suggestion came from — your own notes, your lowest answer in last week’s check, or a default. An optional short daily note is off unless you switch it on. None of this needs an account. A piece of paper works just as well. ## When your notes show very little difference Sometimes the taps before and after look about the same for every practice. That is not a failure, and it does not mean the practices are useless or that something is wrong with you. A few things worth reflecting on: **Timing.** You may be reaching for a practice once things have already peaked. Some people find it helps to notice earlier; there is more on this in [interoception and ADHD](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/interoception-and-adhd). **The size of the week.** A one-minute practice is small next to a heavy week. If the load, sleep or recovery time is the bigger issue, a conversation about that may help more than another practice. The [Regulation Profile](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/regulation-profile-explained) is a longer self-reflection that asks about those areas. **Tapping on autopilot.** If every tap is the same, you may have stopped checking in with yourself. It is fine to stop tapping for a while. The taps are optional notes. If they stop being useful, stop using them. If you are worried about how you are feeling, talk to a qualified clinician. PKJ Coaching is coaching, not therapy, diagnosis or medical care, and it does not guarantee any health outcome. ## Common questions **How do I find a reset that suits me?** Try a few and keep a simple note. If you like, tap how activated you feel from 1 to 5 just before a practice and again just after. Over time the notes can help you reflect on which practices you prefer and want to come back to. They cannot prove which practice works, and people's preferences differ, so there is no single right answer. **How many times should I try a practice?** As many times as feels useful. There is no number of tries that turns your notes into proof, because how you feel a minute later depends on many things besides the practice. It is fine to decide you like or dislike a practice on your own experience. **Does a 1-to-5 tap measure anything?** It is a quick, subjective note of how activated you felt in that moment. It is not a measurement of your nervous system, not heart rate variability and not a clinical test, and the difference between two taps is not evidence that a practice worked. It is separate from the Regulation Index, which is a weekly reflection about the past seven days and cannot be used as a before-and-after check. **What if my taps look the same for every practice?** That is not a failure. You may be reaching for practices once things have already peaked, a heavy week may matter more than a one-minute practice, or you may be tapping on autopilot. It is fine to stop tapping. If you are worried about how you are feeling, talk to a qualified clinician. ## Want support making these ideas work in your day? Explore 1:1 ADHD coaching with Pen. Book a free call to talk about what feels hard and whether coaching is a fit. [Book a free call](https://pkjcoaching.com/clarity-call?src=journal-which-nervous-system-reset-works-for-you) Free tools: [Try Ask PKJ free](https://pkjcoaching.com/ask-pkj) · [Take the 60-second check](https://pkjcoaching.com/measure) · [Try a free reset](https://pkjcoaching.com/reset-now) [The 60-Second Read: two short emails a week →](https://pkjcoaching.com/newsletter) ## Related reading - [The Regulation Profile: What 24 Questions Show That 5 Can’t](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/regulation-profile-explained) - [ADHD Nervous System Hacks: 7 Ways to Calm Down in Under a Minute](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/adhd-nervous-system-hacks-under-a-minute) - [What the 60-Second Regulation Index Measures, and What It Doesn't](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/what-the-regulation-index-measures) More on this topic: [Inside PKJ Coaching](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/topics#inside-pkj) · [All Journal essays](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/) **In New York?** Pen works with people with ADHD across NYC, in person and online — see [ADHD coaching in New York City](https://pkjcoaching.com/adhd-coaching-new-york). ## Related reading - [How to Reset Your ADHD Nervous System →](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/how-to-reset-your-nervous-system-adhd) - [Vagus Nerve Exercises for ADHD →](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/vagus-nerve-exercises-adhd) - [ADHD Coaching When You’ve Tried Everything →](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/adhd-coaching-when-youve-tried-everything) - [Take the free five-question Regulation Index](https://pkjcoaching.com/measure) [← Back to the Journal](https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/) --- Source: https://pkjcoaching.com/journal/which-nervous-system-reset-works-for-you PKJ Coaching is ADHD coaching with Pen King Jr. It is coaching, not therapy, diagnosis or medical advice. 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